accident, life, marriage

Mother Vs Mother-in-Law

I am not a big fan of the Indian relationship system. It expects you to treat all relationships equally. For example treat your mother in law like your mother! I mean how lame is it? The mother in question kept me in her womb for 9 months, had sleepless nights because of me, couldn’t eat because of pregnancy sickness and nausea and dang suddenly once you’re married you’re expected to treat this new creature mother-in-law like your mom. I think it’s utter bull shit!

I believe in respecting people but my father-in-law can’t be my dad and the monster mother-in-law can’t be my mother. When you’re married against your family’s will there is a lot riding in a relationship to make it work but is it just the girl’s responsibility? Doesn’t the man of the house have the same set of responsibility? Well, I have always tried being nice to the in-laws till they fought with me and made my life hell when my husband was in UK. I was soo close to walking out of it but I gave it another go. I love my husband soo much that I was willing to put up with his miserable parents but at what cost?

My sister met with a major accident yesterday and when I was telling my husband about the situation she was quick to pass a snide comment – It’s good she dies. What’s the point of living like this! I swear to God I wanted to kick her soo hard and give her 1000 slaps. How demented can you be to say such a thing? This incident made me realise the difference between mom and mom-in-law! The mother in law will pretend that you’re part of the family and will find the first opportunity to give you one tight slap! I have zero respect for that woman now. Not only have I closed my heart but the doors of my house are also permanently closed. I wouldn’t want to be associated with such disgusting people! I only pray that my sister recovers!

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Relationships……..

Yesterday, I was trying to make a list of relationships that I have been in so . Such a task is never a happy one for most but for me it was a pretty easy one. Well, I moved to a boarding school when I was 16 . Things weren’t easy for me. I always dreamt of being in a relationship with a nice guy who would understand me, laugh with me, do crazy things and just don’t bother about the world. Well, you see it’s not really easy to get such a guy especially when you are studying in a girls’ school! So being in that one relationship was a herculean task for me. Of course I would get to meet a lot of guys who would want to take me out for coffee and such relationships were short lived. I think I have attention span of a 3 year old, I can easily forget people ! I am easy that way. So here I am , turning 27 and making a list of all the relationships that I have been in so far:

i) The weird one – I think when you are 16, you wear your heart on your sleeve. I met this guy and thought he was adorable. Fell in love with him in a jiffy and fell out of it in exactly 5 months. Ha ha ha. Now that I think about it, I find it soo silly. I mean what was I even thinking? He was horrible, would treat me like a trash bag and never respected me  and my friends never approved of him. Thank God for drilling some sense in me and I decided to show him the middle finger and moved on.

ii) The Charming One- I met this guy one day, I thought he was ridiculous. I hated him. He would call me every night and we would speak for 2-3 hours. My friend was madly in love with him but he had absolutely no interest in her. I thought he was just a friend but I realised after few months that he loves me and I was honestly not in love with him. He is a very good friend and I know that he would take a bullet for me but I never thought that he was the one. He was a buddy.

While I was on this crazy journey, trying to find ‘THE ONE’ who is perfect for me I discovered a thing or two about myself.. I am the happiest  when I am with myself. I enjoyed being in my room, not talking to anyone and just watching television. I enjoyed the loneliness. I enjoyed going for a movie all by myself. I enjoyed going to a spa and for coffee all by myself. Relationships have a big impact on you. There are some which put you in a spot, there are some that are old and familiar, some which answer all your questions, some which make you get a partner visa and move to a different continent altogether but the most exciting relationship of all is the relationship I have with myself.And in this solitary journey I found the one who loved my madness and loved me just the way I am and that’s just fabulous.

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