accident, life, marriage

Mother Vs Mother-in-Law

I am not a big fan of the Indian relationship system. It expects you to treat all relationships equally. For example treat your mother in law like your mother! I mean how lame is it? The mother in question kept me in her womb for 9 months, had sleepless nights because of me, couldn’t eat because of pregnancy sickness and nausea and dang suddenly once you’re married you’re expected to treat this new creature mother-in-law like your mom. I think it’s utter bull shit!

I believe in respecting people but my father-in-law can’t be my dad and the monster mother-in-law can’t be my mother. When you’re married against your family’s will there is a lot riding in a relationship to make it work but is it just the girl’s responsibility? Doesn’t the man of the house have the same set of responsibility? Well, I have always tried being nice to the in-laws till they fought with me and made my life hell when my husband was in UK. I was soo close to walking out of it but I gave it another go. I love my husband soo much that I was willing to put up with his miserable parents but at what cost?

My sister met with a major accident yesterday and when I was telling my husband about the situation she was quick to pass a snide comment – It’s good she dies. What’s the point of living like this! I swear to God I wanted to kick her soo hard and give her 1000 slaps. How demented can you be to say such a thing? This incident made me realise the difference between mom and mom-in-law! The mother in law will pretend that you’re part of the family and will find the first opportunity to give you one tight slap! I have zero respect for that woman now. Not only have I closed my heart but the doors of my house are also permanently closed. I wouldn’t want to be associated with such disgusting people! I only pray that my sister recovers!



Family holds a very special place in my heart. I absolutely love my cousin sisters. There are days I hate them and I want to bash them up and there are days I laugh at their silly jokes. Last evening I heard that my baby sister met with an accident. My mom didn’t give me all the details but whatever I got to know later scared the hell out of me! The first thing I did was download her pics from whatsapp and look at it for sometime.

It’s been 12 hours and I am still shocked. I remember one small incident. She asked me something which ticked me off and I told her that I wouldn’t want to talk about it. I was really mad at her for asking me about something I didn’t want to talk about. She sent me sorry messages for the next few days and promised never to ask me anything that would upset me.

I read somewhere that one must first find their best friends in their family. I always hated the fact that I had an elder brother. I always wanted to have a sister as I felt they are more sensitive. There was a void in my life and this little sister of mine made me happy when days were difficult, sent me stupid jokes when I was upset. Now seeing her struggle for her own life is difficult. Well she is just 22 for crying out loud! But I hope she will recover. My sister is a fighter and I know she won’t give up!!!

As Carrie Bradshaw would put it – The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don’t. But, in the end, they’re the people you always come home to. Sometimes it’s the family you’re born into and sometimes it’s the one you make for yourself.